"Abel wanted a traditional marriage with a traditional wife...but he never fell in love with servilent women...He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage." This quote in Trevor Noah Born a Crime book shows Abel wanted a woman who he can control but he got a true opposite of he wanted because Patricia was a woman used to doing what she wanted she was independent and confident about what she does.The quote can be related to gender roles in today's society while many women are still responsible for specific roles especially in home responsibilities while men may have the responsibility to be the provider and control a dominant position.The pressure can create tension in relationships for example,If we see some Ethiopian men might desire tradition girl valuing family,respect and religion however attracted to a modern girl’s independent and confidence.This causes dissatisfaction and misunderstanding in the relationship because of the opposite desires according to tradition woman desire for social acceptance and also personal desire in modern women. Abel’s desire toward Patricia shows that people are attracted to strong personalities. A woman who knows her choice,standard and a woman who has confidence,who believes in herself is attractive in nature, because people are attracted to people who believe in themselves.The reason that abel wants a woman who is traditional was due to his dream to put her in a cage this can show sexism insights naw a day marriage might prevent for womens’ growth even if there is no control of men over women.Domestic responsibilities and attitude can prevent womens growth we can see points such as learning after marriage, and also giving birth.because of social expectation,child care burden,carrier interruption because of giving birth this all causes low development of women after marriage.so that it is not bad if we call it a hidden cage.